The wild woman and the related wolf motive
Free-roaming wolves and unaffected women have a lot in common: the accuracy of their instinctive sensitivity, their love of playfulness, and their almost immovable loyalty. Both genera are naturally relationship-oriented, they like to sniff curiously, they are inquisitive, subtle, tough, persistent and soulful. As for their boys, their companions, and the rest of the pack, they have an unerring, intuitive instinct for the day. They are adaptable, steadfast and in crisis situations, both genera prove a death-defying heroism.
Nevertheless, both genres were slandered and subjugated in remarkably similar ways, since the centuries-long purges of the moral-preaching do-gooders were, of course, not restricted to wild growth in the outside world, but more to the untamed wild regions of the human and especially of the female psyche.
Traditional psychology knows remarkably little about women's issues, much less about their background, such as female intuition, female sexuality, the cyclical return of moods and powers. She is completely silent about things like restoring access to the knowledge of the ancients and access to the female creative power.
Women's souls do not fit into the culturally acceptable molds, even though millions of women have desperately tried to force themselves into these molds, as almost every society demands it under penalty of punishment and sanctions. In the course of such dislocation exercises, women born as small female natural phenomena are turned into psychological outsiders in their own culture. So, as women, we can really have no other goal than to reclaim our own wild natural beauty and from now on to nurture and strengthen and stand by it, whatever comes from professionally conceited social classes.
- Clarissa Pinkola Estés - The Wolf Woman
"The old wise wolf is inside us. It blooms in the depths of the soul of women, the ancient and vital wild woman. She describes her home as this place in the time when the spirit of women and the spirit of wolves come into contact. It is the point where the ego and you kiss; the place where women run with the wolves. "🌷🍃🌸⁀⋱‿ ,,, 💚
"If we live as we breathe, take and let go, then we will not be wrong."
"The best soil to sow and grow something new is at the bottom. In that sense, it means to reach the breeding ground when we are lying on the ground, even if it is very painful. "
We humans are terribly scared of being devastated. Can there be something worse? At this point we reach the limits of our powers, we lose everything, even our hope. But what else can we lose if we have already lost everything? At this moment something new, something almost magical arises. We lay down our dead skin, our armor and contaminated sites, to get up again, to emerge stronger from the situation.
☜ Arven ☞
"Love in its most perfect form means several deaths and rebirths. We end one section, one aspect of love, and start another. The passion dies and returns. "
Love is the only strength that never goes out or disappears forever. It is a transforming entity that is spreading, allowing us to mature, to die and to be born again, who sometimes takes our lives and returns them to us later. This is something we can experience daily in our partnership, where passion becomes intimacy and we commit ourselves in a more mature way to the other, where after a break now and then a new and more intense love is born.
🌷🍃🌸⁀⋱‿ ,,, 💚
To distance ourselves enables us to find ourselves again
"Although exile is not something you come for fun, there is an unexpected benefit in it: exile brings us many gifts. It suddenly takes away our weakness, makes lamentations disappear, empowers the mind, enhances intuition, and gives us the power of pervasive observation. " - Clarissa Pinkola Estés,
Exile - also understood as the act of leaving behind what we know to face society itself, insecurity and even the unknown - teaches us new abilities and skills, such as introspection, personal safety, observation and receptivity. ~ Arven ~
"Being strong does not mean flexing muscles or bending. It means meeting our light without fleeing and actively living with the wild nature in its own way. It means being able to learn; to be able to preserve what we know. It means preserving and living. "
This is one of the most valuable quotes from the book The Wolf Woman. As an example we could cite the fact that even today we still hear that women are the "weaker sex". Weakness and fragility are attributes that have always been attributed to femininity. Our culture, which is terribly immature, does not understand what the true meaning of strength is. It is not strong who lift the most weight with his arms, who carry the most kilos on his shoulders or who can run the fastest. Strong is who is facing something, who does not flee, who without fear reveals his identity, who does not give up who lives with joy and courage.
"Being yourself often leads us to be exiled. But living according to the ideas of others means that we send ourselves into exile. "- from The Wolf Woman
This quote is a principle of personal growth and indisputable self-realization. The courage to put in any situation, in any context, but not limited value, with whom we have to do it oneself to be enabled us to preserve their own identity. In this way, we return to our being, to this wild woman who flees from domestication, from traps and fences that seek to limit her freedom.
“Life on the run was filled with dreams, some at night during sleep, real dreams, and some when the mind was awake but drifting. Most were terrifying, the nightmares of the shadows growing bolder and larger. Others were pleasant wishes of a rosy future, free of the past. These were rare, Patrick had learned. Life on the run was life in the past. There was no closure”
― John Grisham, The Partner
“After awhile you realize that putting your actions where your mouth is makes you less likely to have to put your money where your mouth is.”
~Criss Jami, Killosophy